The fighting stopped, the house went quiet, and you decided you were through the worst of it. Sometimes that is true. More often, quiet is the sound of someone who has stopped expecting to be heard.
When she was raising things, she was still trying. A complaint, even an unfair one, is an invitation. Silence is what happens after the invitation stops feeling worth sending.
You will not feel the difference between the two, because from where you are sitting they both look like a calm week.
Not "what's wrong" at the end of a long day. Something closer to: "Something has felt off between us and I would rather hear it than keep guessing."
Then let it land. Do not correct the details, do not explain your side yet, do not try to solve it in the first minute. You asked her to be honest. Arguing with the answer teaches her not to bother next time.
A weekend away resets the mood for a week. Showing up the same way for a month resets the relationship. She has heard the apology before, probably more than once. What she has not seen lately is thirty unremarkable days in a row.
Pick one thing, small and repeatable, and do it whether or not anyone notices.
Mark the same handful of things each night. Did I listen properly. Was I easy to be around. Did I do the thing I said I would do. Did I feel close to her.
A month of that is humbling, and occasionally reassuring, and both are useful. Keep it to yourself. It is not evidence and she is not on trial. It is how you find out whether you are actually changing or only intending to.
Quiet is not the end of it. It is usually the last easy chance you get.
The distance took months to build. Pulling it back starts with one ordinary evening, tonight.
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Disclaimer: Personal perspectives only, plain old-fashioned thinking about what keeps people together, not professional advice and not endorsed by any organization; if anything at home feels unsafe, please talk to someone you trust.